Give What It Is You Want to Get

Give what it is you want to get.  Sometimes when we hear that statement, our inner rebel stands with arms folded across our chest and says, “No, I should get it first!  And then I will give it.”   Or perhaps this response:  “If I give it, I expect you to reciprocate immediately or I will be angry!”  Or even….”If I give it and you don’t, I will never give it again!”

These interactions are some of the games we play in the field of relationships.  The playing comes from the duality of thinking I am separate from you.  The truth is that when we give to each other we are giving to ourselves as well.

For example, perhaps I would like more space to be myself in a particular relationship .   Perhaps I feel that you don’t hear me.  I want more experience of being heard.  I keep focusing on YOU hearing ME and acknowledging ME.   I notice every time you don’t listen to me.  I get wrapped up in my needing you to be a certain way.  I am controlling the process but I don’t even realize it because I am thinking I am right and you just need to listen to me and you will get it right.  I am so determined for you to hear me that I have forgotten about you.

Am I giving what I want to get?  How do I hear you?  Am I listening openly and with acceptance?………even if I don’t like what I am hearing?  Is my heart open to you and to your process or am I hell-bent on being heard? What happens if I open the space with my attention to hearing you, accepting you?  When I move into sharing the space, I am amazed.  Something is different.  I am hearing you……it seems strangely like the first time.  I hear your struggles, your hopes and dreams.  There is clearly a change in energy.  I hear you clearly because I have moved out of my contracted self and into the space that connects us.  My heart embraces you as I listen to you.

Unbelieveably, I am not thinking of myself.  I see you not as the controller of my space but another soul working its process.  I practice this giving what I want to get…….over and over.  I am curiously addicted to this new way of thinking and behaving.  I become aware of how much I have missed in sharing your process of becoming.  I see you blossom in my acceptance of you.  And I see you opening to me in a deeply interested way.  You are asking me questions and listening to my answers.  I feel your presence in our shared space.  I am amazed that I have forgotten the beautiful grace of giving.  I want to live there always.

The world looks different to us today…….it expanded in ways we didn’t know before.  The sun rises on a dark place of the past and we smile in a new understanding of connection with one another.   We got it today…….as long as we keep giving.

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The Law of Attraction

Even in these times of uncertainty and financial insecurity…….we can remember that holding money in fear paralyzes the flow of energy.  If we freely give what we can whether it be money or time or service in some way to another, we receive the gift of giving.  And the flow begins to move.  Money comes in and money goes out.

It is the same with focusing on gratitude and appreciation.  When our thoughts and actions are living in the higher vibrations of joy, then we give out joy to ourselves and others and just when we aren’t looking…..here comes a bit more joy into our own lives.  Like does attract like.

If you are struggling right now with finding joy in life as it exists, take a walk and just be present with your feet meeting the ground in each step.  Start looking around as you breathe and smile at the busy bees loading up on nectar for the winter, a flower blooming or spreading its seeds for the next year in absolute trust of its natural process.

To get your flow going with more giving energy ( no matter a dollar or ten or just your time in spreading the message) consider these three ideas:  We did and you can, too……it’s so simple and generates joy in our hearts as we add light into the world…….. “3 Things You Can Do to Empower Women,” O Magazine  http://tinyurl.com/ndj4nh.

Sometimes we just need to remember how fear can sneak up on us and repress our breathing and our natural flow of energy.  The only thing that is real is love.

A Man Who Needs Help

If you are looking for a charity to support…….remembering that the Law of Attraction works best when our money energy is circulating………consider this one.   Nicolas Kristof wrote in his Sunday opinion article for the NYT, a woman in Pakistan dies in pregnancy or childbirth every 35 minutes.   Kristof describes how a doctor is trying to help poor women in childbirth in his native Pakistan.   His uplifting Sunday article can be found at http://www.nytimes.com/2009/07/19/opinion/19kristof.html?_r=1&scp=1&sq=Dr.%20Shershah&st=cse.  If you read the article, you will be reminded again that amidst those who continue to act out of the old patriarchal energy of egocentrism, there are beautiful lights of humanity stretching out their hearts to help one another.   A summary is found on Kristof’s blog entry below. More

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