From Byron Katie

We don’t know how to change; we don’t know how to forgive or how to be honest. We’re waiting for an example. You’re the one. You are your only hope, because we’re not changing until you do. Our job is to keep coming at you, as hard as we can, with everything that angers, upsets, or repulses you, until you understand. We love you that much, whether we’re aware of it or not. This whole world is about you.

A Bit of Course in Miracles

“The world is nothing in itself. Your mind must give it meaning. And what you behold upon it are your wishes, acted out so you can look on them and think them real.”

Rumi and Clarity

Everyone sees the unseen
in proportion to the clarity of his heart.


Quote from Byron Katie

Everyone and everything is doing its job perfectly – no mistake. Byron Katie

Afraid of Fire

“None can teach you, none can make you spiritual.   There is no other teacher but your own soul.” Swami Vivekananda

The power of uncertainty is flowing through and around us.  Some days we breathe deeply, relax and float with it; other times we stiffen up, grab onto whatever is close with a tight fist, and rigidly watch through squinty eyes as life passes us by.  It is our choice.  Sometimes we forget we have a choice and become victims of the happenings of our lives.  We lose our center and then fall in the mud.

We get so tied up in not trusting the process of life.  Within wholeness is the duality of dark and light.   In our core, we are light.  Being human invites us to both celebrate the light and to integrate the dark.  Well, the first part is great, the second not so much, we say to ourselves.  We are afraid of the fire of transformation.

Watching American Idol, yes, that is true!  I am reminded of Crystal Bowersox……MamaSox.  Here she comes from a small town to millions of people watching her every move and listening and judging her every note. She dresses and wears her hair as she likes, speaks thoughtfully as she transitions into a new lifestyle…..expressing the uniqueness of her Being.   Her boyfriend and she decide to not continue their relationship and he goes home on the day of the  final performance!    Her response?  It gives her ‘fire in her belly.”  And if you saw her perform that night…….she was not afraid of the fire……she faced it, made it her own and sang beautifully.

From 12 Step programs we hear the statement……there are no victims,  just volunteers.   Our soul brings us experiences for us to integrate.  They are gifts in their teachings to us.  As we move through the darkness, the clouds lift and the light shines from our hearts.  It’s not easy because we are human and full of emotions; it does not have to be difficult and scary.  We are always surrounded in love; we are never alone.  We are guided on our path to integration.  We pray, meditate, contemplate that all loving energies around us surround us with wisdom and compassion for ourselves so that we may love ourselves deeply as we transform the clouds of doubt about who we really are…….into the heart knowing that we are love.   May we all experience ‘fire in our belly’ when we are challenged to move more deeply  into wholeness.

copyright 2010 Andrea Avari, Ph.D.

Sharing the Truth of Who You Are

There is a saying that says, “the greatest gift you have to share is the truth of who you are.”  If we just breathe deeply for a moment and savor the meaning of these words, there is a resonance in our body.  We want to be who we are.  We want the freedom to be who we are.  We want our hearts to be luminous and light; we want to soar and ride the thermals of our lives.

So what keeps us from being that gift to ourselves and to others?  Well, if we face ourselves honestly, it is probably fear.  Fear of someone not approving of us, fear of being left behind, fear of being thought of as different or strange.   Conformity energy contracts the lower chakras. More

Give Yourself a Loving Gift

When was the last time you gave yourself something special……not a material something but a heart thing.  Most of our days are spent running from one happening to another.  Our challenge is to slow down and to become mindful……bringing our full awareness to the task at hand.  We allow our breathing to slow down as thoughts move past our mind creating a space of just ‘Being’ with whatever is in front of us.

Sometimes, however, it is a challenge to get into that ‘Being’ space.  When we are feeling disconnected, separated, and generally not at peace, it is challenging to hear the knowing of our intuition as our guide.  We can become anxious and frustrated and create confusion in our lives.  It is at those times that we need to hear from a special friend who really loves us.  One who really understands who we are; one who is able to embrace us fully with compassion. More

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