By Adyashanti

“You’ve made up the whole thing. But the awakeness in you is not dreaming. Only the mind is dreaming. It tells itself stories and wants to know if you’re progressing. When you shift into wakefulness, you realize, “Wait, it’s a dream. The mind is creating an altered state of reality, a virtual reality, but it’s not true — it’s just thought.” Thought can tell a million stories inside of awareness, and it’s not going to change awareness one bit. The only thing that’s going to change is the way the body feels. If you tell yourself a sad story, the body reacts to that. And if you tell yourself a self-aggrandizing story, the body feels puffed up, confident. But when you realize it’s all stories, there can be a vast waking up out of the mind, out of the dream. You don’t awaken, what has eternally been awake realizes itself. That which is eternally awake is what you are.”
~Adyashanti

We want to know so badly……….by Matt Licata from FB

“We want to know so badly… how things will turn out, when we’ll be awakened, when our heart will no longer be at risk of breaking, when we’ll be “healed,” when we can finally step into life all the way. It is so easy for even our spiritual lives to become yet another expression of our own unmet emptiness, boredom, unmetabolized pain, undigested addictions, chronic self-aggression, and sense that we are ultimately unlovable as we are.
It is no “secret” that our culture is one of acquisitiveness – please, somehow, give me more. What is here now is most definitely not enough. I know there is some Divine glorious reality waiting for me, where angels are singing, harps are playing, perfect soul mates are appearing and disappearing, the grooviest spiritual career is presenting itself, all of my dreams are manifesting abundantly, and above all I am experiencing only the high, spiritual states of consciousness, falling eternally into one endlessly yummy cosmic orgasm. Our spiritualities (as well as our intimate relationships) have become the receptacle (in often subtle and unconscious ways) to remedy these core feelings of unlove.
But perhaps there is no “secret.” Perhaps the love and true meeting we seek will never be found through the activity of acquisition, through that mind that is forever spinning frenetically into some “new” and “high” state of consciousness. Perhaps Life has no interest in us living up to some second-hand image, that it doesn’t want or need us to be “perfect” or “divine” or “awakened” or “healed.” And that it is only ever offering its invitation to fall heart-first into an immense field of not-knowing – not knowing how to live, not knowing how to forgive, not knowing how to accept, not knowing how to get awakened, not knowing how to “heal,” and not knowing how to finally acquire the “right” “spiritual” thoughts, feelings, emotions, experiences, and “states.”
I hear from so many of you how exhausted you are, so tired of chasing around some fantasy of a “spiritual” life that you were told was the right one by some teacher, author, or expert who has figured it out and come to some fundamental resolution to love and its untamed creative wildness. You are longing for rest. To rest in your true being, which is only ever found right here and right now, and in the very core of your commitment to stay radically embodied to your precious vulnerability, your miracle senses, and the vast creativity of the somatic-emotional world.
Friend, will you please rest?
In the very center of your heart, there is always an open doorway. It has nothing to do with wriggling into some conditioned state of consciousness other than the pure one that is here now, or with seeking some mythical sustained transcendent experience, or with any sort of movement beyond this messy world of intimacy, confusing gooey love, and human vulnerability. It wants so badly for you to walk through, to meet for the first time this unbearable longing to go home, to behold for the first time the miracle of this precious human body, of *these* thoughts, of *these* feelings, of *these* passing states of consciousness, exactly as they have been given by an unseen, raging grace.
For in just one moment of caring enough – of somehow resisting the call to exit this experience for another – what you see is that it is all made of love, crafted out of the substance of love, all the way through, from the inside-out and outside-in. And no matter what the details, love has somehow configured itself as your unique life, and has offered itself as a gift… only forever waiting for you to receive, honor, and hold it, exactly as it is.”

Matt Licata

“There is Nothing Wrong With Us” by Caroline de Lisser

There is nothing “wrong” with us. Everything about us is purposely there to serve our own unique evolution.
We are growing out of duality consciousness and shifting into unity consciousness that is all inclusive and without need to compare and reject.
It’s ok to be flawed, messed up even…We all came in with stuff to work on. That is the nature of being in human form and no one is exempt.
The grass may appear greener on the other side but the other side always has it’s own hidden crosses to bare.

We are creating an inner split when we feel that we need to be someone other than who we are. We will be in perpetual conflict and self rejection while lost in a dream of trying to become something that we are not rather than simply being with who we are and drawing forth our own authentic strengths and talents.
This cannot happen if we are busy trying to be someone else.
We will miss our own power hidden under our denied parts.
Being fully present with what is, as it is, is where life and growth happens.
To start the warrior’s journey, we have to start by retrieving all of ourself, no parts left under the carpet or locked away in the broom closet.
We have to be willing to claim our vulnerable, unfinished, imperfect self and accept all of it so that wholeness has a chance to occur.
This is not something that usually happens overnight, it is a purposeful journey with intention and self awareness as our vehicle. We will fall off our horse time and time again into self rejection but each time we willingly get back on we gain strength and confidence and the ability to hold on to our seat.
© Caroline de Lisser

We must be the lamps……..by Marianne Willliamson

“At a time during which the world seems to be falling apart, the antidote to global chaos is a critical mass of people within whom the unintegrated fractals of life are finally coming together. This collective mutation, this alternative to the maladaptive behavior of our species, is appearing out of the mists even now. And from this ragamuffin, international smattering of souls groping however clumsily for enlightenment, there is emerging a forcefield of love so powerful and lasting that hatred itself will fall away in its presence. It is a light that when having attained full brightness, will shine away all darkness from the world. Our task is to assume this, stand on this, and add to this, with all our heart, with all our soul and with all our might. The light is here because it is always here, but we must be its lamps.”
Marianne Willlianson

World as Projection by Nisargadatta Maharaj

“Once you realize that the world is your own projection, you are free of it. You need not free yourself of a world that does not exist, except in your own imagination! However the picture is — beautiful or ugly — you are painting it and you are not bound by it. Realize that there is nobody to force it on you, that it is due to the habit of taking the imaginary to be real. See the imaginary as imaginary and be free of fear.

When you realize that you are the light of the world, you will also realize that you are the love of it; that to know is to love and to love is to know. Of all the affections the love of oneself comes first. Your love of the world is the reflection of your love of yourself, for your world is of your own creation. Light and love are impersonal, but they are reflected in your mind as knowing and wishing oneself well. We are always friendly towards ourselves, but not always wise. A Yogi is a man whose goodwill is allied to wisdom.”

~ Nisargadatta Maharaj

Broken Heart as Teacher by Matt Licata

“At times, a broken heart
will appear as your teacher,
and you will be asked to practice
the transformative yogas
of sadness and vulnerability.
Your ancient companion aloneness
has arrived as a clarifying, melancholic
wisdom-guide from beyond,
along with your fellow travelers
the moon and the stars.
These ones have come
to walk with you
on a blessed journey.”

By Matt Licata

There is a tendency to look to our intimate and love relationships to make us feel better – as if this was their primary purpose. This of course is an old template that lives within us from the earliest hours, days, weeks, and months of our lives; when we intelligently looked to our caregivers to metabolize our emotional experience for us, to empathically attune to our developing nervous systems, and to hold and contain the wide-open vulnerability found inside our little hearts.
We can also start to see how we can subtly use our relationship with spirituality in this same way, to make us feel better. It is so natural, really, from a developmental perspective, to look to intimate relationship and spiritual practice to provide us with those thoughts, feelings, emotions, and states of consciousness which we so long for, which are safe, which feel nice, while simultaneously hoping they will remove from our experience those others which we just do not want to feel – which point to the uncertain, unknown, groundless dimension of love and its movement. There’s just too much exposure there, we’re too naked, and there’s very little room here for the confirmation of our personal identity project.
But is this the ultimate purpose of our intimate relationships – or for any sort of spiritual or transformational path? We so badly want to feel better about ourselves, about our lives – to somehow make contact with this deeply rooted belief and fear that we are ultimately unlovable, unworthy of love; that we’re not fully okay as we are. Deep within, under our stories of spirituality, intimacy, and awakening, we may find a life-or-death need for the other to confirm us – whether that other be our intimate partner, our guru, our parents, our children, or our friends on the path. Am I awakened? Do you love me? How do I need to change so that you will see that I am special and worthy? Really, I’ll believe *anything*. I’ll do anything to be seen, to be held, to be validated, to be recognized, to be confirmed – just let me know what I need to do. Please help me heal the wound of unlove.
In my conversations with many of you over these last few months, we have seen a lot of this together; how we’ve subtly and unconsciously asked our intimate partners, our love relationships, and our spiritualities to make us feel better, to feel safe, to provide some solid resting place. What a gift to be able to see this, despite the shame, the vulnerability, the anger, and the frustration that can accompany such insight. We’ve seen that holding these realizations in an enormous space of lovingkindness provides the fuel and the courage we need to keep moving forward, to not become caught up in self-denigration, self-hatred, and other ways of being aggressive toward our lived experience. We can even see that these defensive strategies and developmental needs arose out of an intelligence, a creativity, a clarity when we were little, during a time when our precious nervous systems were not able to fully digest our experience, not quite able to fully metabolize the lack of empathic, attuned validation which inevitably occurred in our families of origin.
Friends, can we create a loving, holding environment in which we can see ourselves as we are? To engage with this gorgeous sensual reality as it is, setting aside our fables of awakening and specialness? Can we somehow make a commitment, that no matter what, we will be kind to ourselves – that we will stay close to our embodied immediate experience as it is? For it is only in such a loving space that healing can pour into and through our lives, out into the hearts of others, and only then can we see clearly what is truly driving and motivating us – both in our intimate love relationships and in our spirituality projects.
And in this holding environment – designed out of the cells of your very own heart, out of the light-strands of your most precious DNA – we can finally come to some rest, to allow love to lead the way, to take us on its journey. We start to see that who we are *is* love, and that we need not frenetically or desperately seek it from another or from our fantasies of awakening or from our dreams of intimacy and what these will give us. These pathways were never designed to make us feel better, to reinforce our specialness, or to somehow compensate for our wounds of unlove; they are much more precious than that. For they are doorways into the center of your heart, waiting patiently for you to trust yourself enough, to love yourself enough, to be kind enough to yourself, so that you can step through, and somehow allow love to have you, to have its way with you, revealing its mysteries in each and every moment of this life as it is. And then it is only love that will show you the way home.
There is a tendency to look to our intimate and love relationships to make us feel better – as if this was their primary purpose. This of course is an old template that lives within us from the earliest hours, days, weeks, and months of our lives; when we intelligently looked to our caregivers to metabolize our emotional experience for us, to empathically attune to our developing nervous systems, and to hold and contain the wide-open vulnerability found inside our little hearts.

We can also start to see how we can subtly use our relationship with spirituality in this same way, to make us feel better. It is so natural, really, from a developmental perspective, to look to intimate relationship and spiritual practice to provide us with those thoughts, feelings, emotions, and states of consciousness which we so long for, which are safe, which feel nice, while simultaneously hoping they will remove from our experience those others which we just do not want to feel – which point to the uncertain, unknown, groundless dimension of love and its movement. There’s just too much exposure there, we’re too naked, and there’s very little room here for the confirmation of our personal identity project.

But is this the ultimate purpose of our intimate relationships – or for any sort of spiritual or transformational path? We so badly want to feel better about ourselves, about our lives – to somehow make contact with this deeply rooted belief and fear that we are ultimately unlovable, unworthy of love; that we’re not fully okay as we are. Deep within, under our stories of spirituality, intimacy, and awakening, we may find a life-or-death need for the other to confirm us – whether that other be our intimate partner, our guru, our parents, our children, or our friends on the path. Am I awakened? Do you love me? How do I need to change so that you will see that I am special and worthy? Really, I’ll believe *anything*. I’ll do anything to be seen, to be held, to be validated, to be recognized, to be confirmed – just let me know what I need to do. Please help me heal the wound of unlove.

In my conversations with many of you over these last few months, we have seen a lot of this together; how we’ve subtly and unconsciously asked our intimate partners, our love relationships, and our spiritualities to make us feel better, to feel safe, to provide some solid resting place. What a gift to be able to see this, despite the shame, the vulnerability, the anger, and the frustration that can accompany such insight. We’ve seen that holding these realizations in an enormous space of lovingkindness provides the fuel and the courage we need to keep moving forward, to not become caught up in self-denigration, self-hatred, and other ways of being aggressive toward our lived experience. We can even see that these defensive strategies and developmental needs arose out of an intelligence, a creativity, a clarity when we were little, during a time when our precious nervous systems were not able to fully digest our experience, not quite able to fully metabolize the lack of empathic, attuned validation which inevitably occurred in our families of origin.

Friends, can we create a loving, holding environment in which we can see ourselves as we are? To engage with this gorgeous sensual reality as it is, setting aside our fables of awakening and specialness? Can we somehow make a commitment, that no matter what, we will be kind to ourselves – that we will stay close to our embodied immediate experience as it is? For it is only in such a loving space that healing can pour into and through our lives, out into the hearts of others, and only then can we see clearly what is truly driving and motivating us – both in our intimate love relationships and in our spirituality projects.

And in this holding environment – designed out of the cells of your very own heart, out of the light-strands of your most precious DNA – we can finally come to some rest, to allow love to lead the way, to take us on its journey. We start to see that who we are *is* love, and that we need not frenetically or desperately seek it from another or from our fantasies of awakening or from our dreams of intimacy and what these will give us. These pathways were never designed to make us feel better, to reinforce our specialness, or to somehow compensate for our wounds of unlove; they are much more precious than that. For they are doorways into the center of your heart, waiting patiently for you to trust yourself enough, to love yourself enough, to be kind enough to yourself, so that you can step through, and somehow allow love to have you, to have its way with you, revealing its mysteries in each and every moment of this life as it is. And then it is only love that will show you the way home.

Matt Licata from FB

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